I usually don’t recognize when my coping mechanism is impeding my growth process…until I’ve repeated it enough times to start to notice that there’s a pattern and that an unfavorable outcome is soon to follow. It’s really the DREAD that gets me. When I notice that I’m dreading something that I “could be” looking forward to, I can peel back the layers and realize that I’ve been utilizing some coping (ie. defense) mechanism that’s no longer serving me. Only then, can I take a step back and plan a new course of action.
Thank you for sharing, Katie. I really appreciate your POV. I haven’t thought of “dread” as a signal before. 🤔 they say we carry baggage around from childhood or other experiences often to protect us, but at times, it weighs us down. I’m thinking of the things I dread anew…this soul search is a bit of work. (Lowkey dread-full 😂)
Well-said!
I usually don’t recognize when my coping mechanism is impeding my growth process…until I’ve repeated it enough times to start to notice that there’s a pattern and that an unfavorable outcome is soon to follow. It’s really the DREAD that gets me. When I notice that I’m dreading something that I “could be” looking forward to, I can peel back the layers and realize that I’ve been utilizing some coping (ie. defense) mechanism that’s no longer serving me. Only then, can I take a step back and plan a new course of action.
Thank you for sharing, Katie. I really appreciate your POV. I haven’t thought of “dread” as a signal before. 🤔 they say we carry baggage around from childhood or other experiences often to protect us, but at times, it weighs us down. I’m thinking of the things I dread anew…this soul search is a bit of work. (Lowkey dread-full 😂)