The Missing Tools: Seeking Wisdom for Family Building

"Ronke, get dressed and put on some makeup!" My mother met me with this greeting as we crossed paths in the stairwell of my house. Before I could ask why, she followed with “Men are visual; women are emotional.” I was 3 months postpartum with my third child, wearing, with a concerning consistency, an old blue velvety robe signaling surrender. My mother'…